Fear of intimacy often manifests as a difficulty or reluctance to expose our true selves to others. Often a trait of those experiencing social anxiety or social phobia, fear of intimacy makes it difficult to have close, lasting relationships with others. It is often challenging to start a new relationship. Those with a fear of intimacy strive to avoid rejection, criticism, or abandonment. Fear of intimacy is caused by past traumas.
Philosophy and Mindset
Have you ever heard that there are 9 personality types? This is a common understanding of the enneagram, although you may not know it’s name as so. The enneagram of personality is a system for seeing the motivation behind human behavior. It helps us learn our values, desires, and motivations—and how that informs our actions and reactions. For instance, knowing the enneagram personality types can help with social anxiety and bottled up emotions.
Do you tend to think about where you are going and what you will be doing? Does your mind wander off and perhaps dwell on events in the past, or worry about the future? That is actually quite common, and for many, takes learned skills to do otherwise. Mindfulness is all about being present in the moment. It is acknowledging where you are, what is happening, how you are feeling—as well as how each of these components relate to each other.